We all have different ways of processing grief when a loved one dies. For some, the grave marker can provide a sense of closure and a way to immortalize the memory of your loved one. However, knowing what you can and cannot do with a grave marker and how to choose a marker can be a tough decision.

This month, we’re diving into the typical cemetery regulations related to grave markers, and how to choose a marker that best memorializes your loved one.

Cemetery Regulations

Before choosing a grave marker, be sure to check your local cemetery’s regulations and guidelines, as most cemeteries regulate the headstones placed on graves within their grounds. These regulations may outline requirements such as:

• Size

• Material

• Style of headstone

For example, space limitations may prohibit larger monuments or markers. Make sure you understand what is and isn’t allowed before consulting with a headstone supplier or your funeral director.

Headstones and markers are often installed several weeks to several months after burial to allow for ground settlement.

Choosing a Grave Marker

Once you’ve had a chance to review your cemetery’s regulations, you’ll be better equipped to choose a marker that meets those requirements and reflects your loved one’s legacy.

Two options for purchasing a marker:

1. Work with your funeral home or cemetery—they’ll often handle selection and arrangements as part of your funeral package.

2. Work directly with local monument or headstone suppliers—just be sure to check in with the cemetery about installation policies and requirements.

Select the Marker Type

There are many marker styles to choose from, including:

• Traditional Upright Headstone: A two-piece vertical marker consisting of a base and a die/tablet.

• Footstone: A flat marker placed at the foot of the grave to complement the main headstone.

• Slant Marker: A marker with a slanted face, typically set on a granite or concrete base.

• Niche Marker or Columbarium Headstone: A plaque mounted on the wall of a mausoleum or columbarium niche.

• Lawn-Level Marker: Flat and level with the ground, these are a subtle and affordable choice.

• Memorial Bench or Seat: Often made of wood, stone, or metal, and used in parks or gardens to honor the deceased.

Choose the Marker Material

Each material offers a unique combination of aesthetics, durability, and cost:

• Marble: Great for intricate carvings, but prone to weathering and erosion over time.

• Granite: Durable, versatile, and often the most affordable gravestone option.

• Bronze: Known for its elegance and longevity, though it may weather over time.

• Sandstone & Limestone: Easy to carve but less durable in harsh weather.

Personalizing the Marker

Once you've selected the style and material, you can personalize it further:

• Include your loved one’s name, birth and death dates

• Add epitaphs, poems, or religious verses

• Use symbols or emblems that reflect their hobbies, personality, or faith

You can also incorporate accessories like:

• Flower vases

• Framed photographs

• Solar-powered candles or angels

Planning Ahead

Grief can make even small decisions overwhelming. That’s why we encourage planning ahead whenever possible. By making these choices early, you reduce emotional stress, avoid overspending, and ensure your wishes are honored.

To learn more about pre-arranging your funeral or choosing a grave marker, chat with a member of our team today. We're here to help.