The holiday season can stir up fresh waves of grief—especially for those experiencing it for the first time without their loved one. While we can’t take away the pain, we can offer comfort and connection to those who need it most.

Here are a few thoughtful ways to show support during the holidays:

Acknowledge Their Pain and Offer Presence

Grief doesn’t come with a timeline. If your grieving friend or loved one pulls away, don’t give up. Your presence, even in the smallest gestures—a warm text, a card, sharing a meal—can be a powerful reminder that they’re not alone.

Understand the Ups and Downs

Grief isn’t linear. Holidays may bring joy one moment and sadness the next. Be mindful that they may not have the emotional energy to fully engage—and that’s okay. Give them grace and space without pressure or expectation.

Keep the Invitation Open

Even if they don’t attend, extend the invite. Knowing they’re remembered, included, and welcomed goes a long way in helping someone feel supported—even if they choose not to participate.

Speak Their Loved One’s Name

Don’t be afraid to share stories or mention their loved one. Talking about memories and acknowledging their presence in the past holidays can bring warmth and connection, even if it brings tears too.

Listen Without Fixing

Instead of offering advice or solutions, offer your presence. Be an active listener. Sometimes, the greatest gift you can give is holding space for someone to express how they feel without judgment or instruction.

Start a New Tradition

Ask if they’d like to create a new way to honor their loved one—like lighting a candle, saying a prayer, or setting out a special place at the table. Traditions centered on remembrance can bring healing and connection.

Offer Flexibility and Hope

Holidays can be emotionally overwhelming. Your support might be the reminder they need that they’re loved and not forgotten. Be patient and flexible—they may not be ready this year, but brighter holidays may come in time.

If you’re looking for an additional way to show your love, consider creating a grief care package. Not sure where to start? [Check out our blog post from August for ideas on what to include.]

As always, we’re here for you and your loved ones. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us for support.