Paul Amend

Paul Amend

July 29, 2024

Obituary

MADISON, WI - Paul D. Amend, age 53, passed away unexpectedly on July 29, 2024. Paul was born on October 10, 1970 in Madison, WI at Madison General Hospital, the son of David and Kathleen (Bingham) Amend, and brother to sister Paige Amend.

Paul's family moved to Portage, WI in 1974. His parents worked for the family casket business, Bingham's, Inc. From a young age, after moving to Portage, Paul was interested in electronics and how things work, even amusing his grandpa by taking apart his radio and putting it back together. That maybe inspired Paul's interest in becoming a Ham Radio Operator. He studied, took the exam, and obtained his Amateur Radio License. Paul set up his radio equipment in the business office his dad built in their basement.

In 1989, Paul graduated from Frederick Jackson Turner High School in Portage, WI, in the upper 10% of his class. Paul was chosen to participate in PEER (Portage Educational Enrichment Resource), a program for gifted and talented students, and the National Honor Society. Paul also enjoyed playing the trombone in band. Paul definitely was gifted and talented!

Paul started his work path with American Family Life Insurance Company (Life Co) in Madison, WI, on June 7, 1989, in Underwriting Support. Paul left the insurance industry in 1995 to pursue a career in the radio industry. Paul worked for Seehafer Broadcasting (WYCO/WXCO Radio) from 1995-1996, then Enterprise Media of Madison (WWQM–Q106/WHIT Radio) from 1996-1997.

On January 20, 1997, Paul landed the same job back in the Life Co, and continued his total 32-year career with American Family (AmFam) until the date he left this earth. Paul held numerous positions in the Life Co, Marketing, Actuarial, and Personal Lines. Paul was very passionate about his work, and was the best at what he did in all the jobs he held. Paul's diligence and analytical mind earned him the respect and appreciation of many colleagues and customers he served. In 1989, Paul obtained his Wisconsin Insurance License (Agent's license) and kept it active. In 2015, Paul was featured on AmFam's internal Compass page for UNSUNG HEROES, where employees were chosen to be highlighted. In 2019, Paul was nominated and chosen for a spot on the All 4 OneAmFam award. The winners were taken to Boca Raton, FL for a couple days to celebrate.

Paul was an avid photographer. He picked up a camera and started taking breathtaking photos that all of us enjoyed seeing on his daily posts. Paul also enjoyed reading; taking drives; going to concerts where he met many singing legends; learning new things; and staying under the radar.

Paul was kindhearted and always made time for others. Paul was always available to help family, friends, and neighbors with whatever they needed. Paul always saw the best in people. Paul had a delightful sense of humor, and a beautiful/contagious laugh. Paul will be remembered as gentle, caring, loving, extremely intelligent, and quiet natured.

Paul will be forever missed by those of us still on Earth: From Lutz, FL: Paul's sister Paige (Andy) Erwin, their two sons, two daughters-in-law, and five grandkids. From Madison, WI: Paul's words: The love of his life, Elizabeth (Beth) Gray (Paul was the love of Beth's life too!); Aileen Gray, Paul's second mom; and Dianne (Stuart) Graham. From Rio, WI: Karen (Randy) Kleinfeldt; and Aunt Grace Hinzman. From Mishawaka, IN: Aunt Sara (Jerry) Kuker. From Paris, France: Aunt Annie Brown. Cousins from the Amend and Bingham families; along with friends and co-workers. In Heaven with Paul are: His parents, David and Kathleen (Bingham) Amend; Frank Gray, who always tried to buy Paul two brats at Brat Fest, but Paul only wanted one!; five grandparents; aunts, uncles, and cousins from the Amend and Bingham families; and friends.

A Celebration of Life will be held for Paul on his birthday, October 10, 2024, at Ryan Funeral Home located at 2418 North Sherman Avenue; Madison, WI from 5:00-7:00 P.M.

We kindly requests no flowers. Memorials may be gifted in Paul's name to a charity of your choice, or one of his passions: Caenhill Countryside Centre in the United Kingdom (Caenhill Countryside Centre - Ways to help (caenhillcc.org.uk). They rescue animals. Paul loved watching their daily "Rush-Hour", which has many animals running out of the barn to start their day. Paul especially loved the 'White Arrows', which are three white geese; Mo, the runner duck; and Oreo, the border collie, that doesn't like to work. Love You, Love You More!

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Elizabeth Anne Gray
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Paul, My Eternal Love, this is my newest love letter to you❣️💌 Today is September 29, 2026, which marks day 793, or twenty-six months/two years and two months, since we lost you tragically and without warning. 😭😭😭 Today also marks Mom & Dad Gray's 70th Wedding Anniversary and my friend Amie's birthday! 💒🎂🎉 I know you're up in Heaven with Dad Gray having a wonderful celebration for that, and are also watching over Mom down here on Earth. I wish you both were here for this awesome milestone. We probably would've gone out for prime rib, as all four of us love us some prime rib!! I wish you had met my friend Amie, she's caring, thoughtful, and helpful, and many other things I can't think of right now with this grief brain. You would've liked her, as she's got a lot of the great qualities you have. You both help others feel they matter, they're heard, and they're loved. 💝🫶❣️ I continue to miss you vastly, uninterruptedly, immensely, and continuously every zepto-second of every moment of every day! ⏳💔😭 I'm also extremely grateful for the time we had together here on Earth. I wish we would've had more time, but God had a different plan. My cousin Debbie, in Colorado, sent me an image that says: I wasn't ready to lose you, but maybe Heaven was needing a hero...And it chose mine! You truly are my hero, Paul. You helped so many people in your short time here on Earth, and continue helping people even though you're in Heaven now. 💗 You know I always like to bring up at least one song because we both love music so much. I know you're sending me all these songs now that either I missed when I was growing up, or just don't remember hearing them before. You always taught me so much, especially about music. All of the songs you sent me enriched my life immensely. The song I'll feature in this love letter is Oh My Love by John Lennon. I looked up on the internet to see what the lyrics meant and found this: "Oh My Love" is about the moment when love becomes a lens through which the world is seen anew - a moment of clarity, emotional depth, and connection that changes the way one experiences life. It's both a personal confession and a universal invitation to open one's heart and mind to the beauty and complexity of existence. Wow, how beautiful is that! I don't remember hearing this song, so that makes me feel you sent it to me to remind me of when we met, and I was finally able to experience, through a new lens, what true love is!!! 👩‍❤️‍👨👫👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 I guess that's all I have for now, my love. Just remember Paul, I love you so very, very much 💘and I miss you terribly. 💔 It's so very hard to be down here on Earth without you, my love. The pain of losing you is terribly excruciating, and it's just absolute pure torture for me to have to be down here on Earth all by my lonesome without you by my side Paul, that's why I keep begging you my love, to please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please come down to Earth from Heaven as soon as possible to take me back up to Heaven to be with you for eternity. ♾️👼 Paul, I love you to the moon and back at least a trillion times! 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨💕👩‍❤️‍👨 Paul, I love you to the moon and back an infinite number of times! ♾️Goodnight for now, my one and only true love!! 💞 Love You, Love You More!!! 💚💚💚Your chick and loving fiancée Elizabeth Anne 💍
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Elizabeth Anne Gray
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Paul, My Endless Love❣️ Today is August 28, 2026, which marks day 761 or one day shy of twenty-five months/two years and one month, since we lost you tragically and without warning. 😭😭😭 Once again, I can't believe it's been that long because it still feels like it just happened. My whole world stopped on July 29, 2024, but everyone else's world keeps going. I continue to miss you uninterruptedly and vastly every zepto-second of every moment of every day. ⏳💔😭 Today is Mom Gray's 91st birthday! I know you probably would have been the first person to wish her "Happy Birthday" on Facebook, as you usually were up and sending messages around 3-4 A.M. 🎂 Three days ago, on August 25, 2026, Dolly Parton got her Angel wings and is in Heaven with you now. Most of us here on Earth are mourning losing her. Since you and I would send each other songs to show how much we love each other, I thought it only fitting to have I Will Always Love You, which Dolly wrote, as the song for your August 2026 love letter. I like both versions, the original version sung by Dolly Parton and also Whitney Houston's version from the movie The Bodyguard. You know, Paul, I Will Always Love You for eternity!! ♾️ I ran across a couple things that spoke to my heart. The first one is this: "Through you, I learned that love can be found in the simplest things - a hand to hold, someone who stayed, and a heart that truly cared. I'll always be grateful for that love." Paul, you truly were all about the simple things, and I am so very grateful we met and fell in love!!! 👫👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨👩‍❤️‍👨 The second one is this: "Every tiny detail of you feels like sunrise after a lifetime of night!" When I read that it made me realize I was living in a "lifetime of night" before I met you. When you came into my life your presence and love poured so much light on me, just like a sunrise. 🌅 I guess that's all I have for now, my love. Just remember Paul, I love you so very, very much 💘 and I miss you terribly. 💔 It's so very hard to be down here on Earth without you, my love. The pain of losing you is terribly excruciating, and it's absolute pure torture for me to have to be down here on Earth all by my lonesome without you by my side Paul, that's why I keep begging you my love, to please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please come down to Earth from Heaven as soon as possible to take me back up to Heaven to be with you for eternity. ♾️👼 Paul, I love you to the moon and back at least a trillion times! 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨💕👩‍❤️‍👨 Paul, I love you to the moon and back an infinite number of times! ♾️ Goodnight for now, my one and only true love!! 💞 Love You, Love You More!!! 💚💚💚Your loving fiancée 💍and Brown-Eyed Girl, Elizabeth Anne
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Elizabeth Gray
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Paul, My Everlasting Love❣️ Today is July 29, 2026, which marks twenty-four months (two years) since we lost you so very tragically and unexpectedly. It's just unfathomable to me that this much time has passed, because it feels like it just happened. This is my newest love letter to you, Paul, my Heavenly Angel!!! 👼 Paul, my love, I'm so very lost without you here with me on Earth! I've run across many messages that say exactly what my heart feels and thought I'd share them with you: I miss the version of life where you were still in it! I miss the way you loved me! Heaven took you and I lost everything! The only time I'll stop missing you...is when we're together again! I will stop missing you when I am with you! I hope you know, up there, just how much I miss you and still need you down here. I will miss you forever! Nothing has ever broken my heart the way losing you did! I never knew a love so deep until I had you. I never knew pain so cruel until I lost you! How lucky I was to have you and to be loved by you! Paul, my love, you mean the world to me, you are my world! 🌐 Everything in my life revolves around you, so losing you shattered my whole world into an infinite number of tiny little pieces that cannot be put back together again until I'm with you in Heaven! So, I can't wait to be reunited with you!! Paul, my love, you know I always loved us sending each other a song to show our love. The one I'm picking for this love letter is I Want To Hold Your Hand by The Beatles. I miss holding your hand! 👫 Here are some of the lyrics that I love: '...And when I touch you, I feel happy inside. It's just a feeling that my love, I can't hide, I can't hide, I can't hide! Yeah, you got that something, I think you'll understand. When I feel that something, I wanna hold your hand!' Paul, I love you so very, very much 💘 and I miss you terribly. 💔 It's so very hard to be down here on Earth without you, my love. The pain of losing you is terribly excruciating, and it's just absolute pure torture for me to have to be down here on Earth all by my lonesome without you by my side Paul, that's why I keep begging you my love, to please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please come down to Earth from Heaven as soon as possible to take me back up to Heaven to be with you for eternity. ♾️👼 Paul, I love you to the moon and back at least a trillion times! 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨💕👩‍❤️‍👨 Paul, I love you to the moon and back an infinite number of times! ♾️ Goodnight for now, my one and only true love!! 💞 Love You, Love You More!!! 💚💚💚Your chick and loving fiancée 💍 Elizabeth Anne
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Elizabeth Anne Gray
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Paul, My Endless Love❣️ Today is June 29, 2026, which marks twenty-three months since we lost you very tragically and unexpectedly. It makes me so very sad! 😭😭😭 This is my newest love letter to you, Paul, my Heavenly Angel!! 👼 Paul, I love you immensely, and miss you uninterruptedly and vastly every zepto-second of every moment of every day!!! I'm extremely heart-broken that we lost you way too soon. 💔 I miss everything about our lives, and the future we planned on Earth will have to wait until I'm up in Heaven with you for eternity. Paul, I miss all the things most people take for granted and all the things specific to just us, like: being able to hold/hug you 🫂; kiss you 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨😙💋; dance with you 🕺💃; call you; have you call me; email you; have you email me; tell you everything about my day; have you tell me everything about your day; have you help me get through all the rough times; let me help you get through all the rough times; have you protect me; have you teach me new things; have you show me fun videos from Caenhill Countryside Centre with Chris Franklin, his team, and all the wonderful animals they have there; both of us sending each other different songs to show our love for each other; talking in lyrics; spending time on Saturdays with Mom Gray; driving to Portage to spend time with Mom Amend; you taking me to new places; going to concerts; going for walks; seeing geese in a pond or walking across the street in front of our car 🪿; spending time together doing nothing; and so much more! Paul, my love, I'm so very devasted and lost without you. You're My Protector, My Rock, The Love of My Life, My Soulmate, My World, My Everything! I miss everything about you and can't wait to be reunited with you in Heaven!! 🤍🪽 Paul, I love you so very, very much 💘 and I miss you terribly. 💔 It's so very hard to be down here on Earth without you, my love. The pain of losing you is terribly excruciating, and it's absolute pure torture for me to have to be down here on Earth all by my lonesome without you by my side Paul, that's why I keep begging you my love, to please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please come down to Earth from Heaven as soon as possible to take me back up to Heaven to be with you for eternity. ♾️👼 Paul, I love you to the moon and back at least a trillion times! 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨💕👩‍❤️‍👨 Paul, I love you to the moon and back an infinite number of times! ♾️ Goodnight for now, my one and only true love!! 💞 Love You, Love You More!!! 💚💚💚Your loving fiancée 💍and Brown-Eyed Girl, Elizabeth Anne
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Elizabeth Anne Gray
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Paul, My One and Only True Love! 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨💘👩‍❤️‍👨 Today is May 29, 2026, which marks twenty-two months since we all lost you so tragically and unexpectedly. 😭😭😭 I'm still missing you uninterruptedly and vastly! 💔 It feels like it just happened!! I still hope you'll walk through the door, or call me to tell me you've just been delayed with something and will be home shortly!!! A large part of my grief journey that's very hard, is that you're not here physically to witness and enjoy the things I know you'd love. I know your love for radio is very strong, as is mine. 📻 It's so great that we both enjoyed and had such passion for the same things in life. One of our favorite things is WKRP in Cincinnati! I ran across a posting that said: "As of May 4, 2026, 97.7 WKRP in Cincinnati is a real, live radio station. It was formerly known as "The Oasis", the station officially acquired the legendary call letters from the 1970s sitcom and began broadcasting under the WKRP moniker at 6:00 a.m. that morning. To bridge the gap between fiction and reality, Gary Sandy - who played program director Andy Travis in the original sitcom - recorded special on-air promos to welcome listeners to the new station. Leading up to the official launch, the station teased the change by playing the iconic WKRP in Cincinnati theme song continuously for several hours." I know you would have heard this was happening well before May 4, 2026, so we could listen to 97.7 and hear/witness history being made when they launched WKRP in Cincinnati for real! 🎙️ Since music is one of our love languages, and this love letter is related to radio, I'll end this with a song title 'Livin' For You', by Boston of course!! 🎵🎸🎤 We would talk to each other in lyrics and send each other songs to show our love. You sent me this song to tell me you were livin' for me! I play this song every day, and I'm sending this to you in Heaven to tell you that I'm 'Livin' For You' every zepto-second of every moment of every day that I have to be stuck down here on Earth all by my lonesome, without you by my side Paul! Please come get me soon, my love, and take me up to Heaven to be with you for eternity!! ♾️ Paul, I love you to the moon and back at least a trillion times. Paul, I love you to the moon and back an infinite number of times. Goodnight for now, my love! Love You, Love You More!! 💚💚💚Paul, my love, I'm sending you All My Love up to Heaven, Your Loving Chick and Fiancée Elizabeth Anne 😘🤟💍🌹❣️
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Elizabeth Anne Gray
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Paul, My Endless Love❣️ Today is April 29, 2026, which marks twenty-one months since we lost you tragically and without warning. 😭😭😭 I can't believe it's been that long, it feels like it just happened. My world stopped July 29, 2024, but everyone else's world keeps going. I miss you uninterruptedly and vastly every zepto-second of every moment of every day. ⏳💔😭 I tell you this every day, and hope it happens very soon. Paul, I love you so very, very much 💘 and I miss you terribly. 💔 It's so very hard to be down here on earth without you, my love. The pain of losing you is terribly excruciating, and it's absolute pure torture for me to have to be down here on earth all by my lonesome without you by my side Paul, that's why I keep begging you my love, to please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please, please come down to earth from Heaven as soon as possible to take me back up to Heaven to be with you for eternity. ♾️👼 I realized that when someone dies on the 29th, 30th, or 31st we can't acknowledge the date in February because most years there are only 28 days in February. Since we lost you on the 29th we could acknowledge it on leap year, but that's not fair to you for all the other years there's no 29th day of February. We lost your mom on July 30, 2024, so we can't acknowledge her in February either. That makes me so sad. 😢☹️ I'm just very lost without you. You're my rock, the love of my life, my soulmate, my world, my everything! I miss everything about you and can't wait to be reunited with you in Heaven!! 🤍🪽 Paul, I love you to the moon and back at least a trillion times. 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨💕👩‍❤️‍👨 Paul, I love you to the moon and back an infinite number of times! ♾️ Goodnight for now, my true love. 💞 Love You, Love You More!!! 💚💚💚 Your loving fiancée 💍and Brown-Eyed Girl, Elizabeth Anne

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